don't have anything to say. I have so much on my mind, but OPSEC refuses to let me get it all out in the open. I will be able to one day, but for right now I am stuck with my own thoughts. I guess this is a good time for me to go and get the journal that I want to start for DH when he leaves. Has anybody had a journal for when your spouse was deployed? I want to write in it at least once a day. It will probably be just trivial things mostly, but some entries will probably have a lot of emotion behind them. Since this is my first deployment, I don't know what kind of emotions I will have in the year that follows. I will probably experience every single emotion there is.
I hope everybody has a great Wednesday!
Jessica
About Me
- Jessica
- I am the wife of a United States Army soldier. He is my heart! We got married in May of 2007. We just finished deployment #1!!
Deployment Survivor
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12 comments:
I started a journal for my husband, but then he wanted me to write him a message on Facebook every night, so it seemed as if I was repeating myself in the journal. So..I stopped, but I do think it's a great idea! I also try to take pictures for my husband (as in day to day stuff) so he doesn't feel like he's missing out on a lot.
I think a journal is a great idea. That way you have a book to look back on later in life. Sending facebook messages is great but you probably won't be able to look at them in 20 years.
I guess my blog is a version of a journal as I write every day and my husband is able to read it too so he can see what I'm doing/thinking that day
Awww My hubs is away as basic right now and I wont beable to see him until May boo..But everyday I write him and I stick it into a folder and when I get his address he will know exactly what I've been doing since he has been gone I try to take atleast a picture a day so he can kinda tell how the day went..
Thanks for the comment on my blog, how did you find me?
Journaling during deployment is a GREAT idea! I tried it during our first deployment together and though I didn't get something written every day, it did help to deal with my emotions while he was gone. Regarding my blog post about the benefits of technology - there is a draw back to it too...since I spend so much more time typing versus hand-writing things, I get MAJOR hand cramps when I write much! LOL So blogging will be my new form of journaling, and is easier to communicate feelings to the masses since everyone and their mom always want to know how I feel. :)
Find what works for YOU and you will make it through your coming year. We wives are Army strong too, and can kick deployments in the but. So glad to "meet" you here!
I agree that the journal is a great idea! I always have this issue when I dont talk to Lee for a week and then he asks me what happened and I cant think of anything good, but if he asks me daily I have TONS of things going on. Since the longest we go without talking is a week he asks me to write emails and send them to him and at the end of the week he checks them to see what I did all week!
I have thought about keeping a journal many times I just never got around to it. The thing I found that helped me the most was during our first deployment I had found a chat room on WebTV (we were E-3's with 2 kids so we couldn't afford a computer, lol). Anyway, I found a chat room called "military wives" and as it turned out a lot of the women were trying to survive a deployment just like me! So, every night after we got the kids to bed we would sign on and just chat. We would talk about our days, kids, emotions... even though most of us never met I felt a real connection to these people. With that in mind I started my own blog to hopefully achieve that same sense of companionship I had during that first deployment.
Anyway, my point is that the key to surviving the deployment is whatever makes you feel better. Some wives keep journals, others blog, others look for friends in similar situations. Whatever works for you is what you should do. Don't force yourself to do something because it worked for someone else, that will be just one more stress that you really don't need in your life.
I did a lot of writing while my husband was deployed. i think it is a good idea. It helps you to get some things off your chest. I also wrote a lot of things down because I wanted us to talk about them when my husband returned. Skype and telephone lines aren't secure. Anyone could be listening or watching so I waited to talk about some things when he got home. Hope the time starts speeding up for you!
Deployment is definitely an emotional roller-coaster. I think you may already be familiar with some of Tracy's writing, but I want to send you this to take a look at. Do whatever you need to, blog, journal, etc to help YOU go through it. Obviously with anything on the internet you'll have to consider OPSEC (good girl for that, by the way!)
Here's the link:
https://www.armywell-being.org/skins/WBLO/display.aspx?moduleID=1d00ce0f-db66-4dd8-b76e-f946fffb6b9b&mode=User&action=blog&back=search_result&BlogID=eb9bd132-0140-434a-b0ed-8601fd24f2c5&StartDate=4/1/2009&EndDate=4/30/2009
I never thought of writing a blog for Hubby when he's deployed. That's a really awesome idea! I bet he would really appreciate it - I'm sure your husband will, too! I will definitely do that. His first deployment may be coming up this summer, so I'll have to remember this...
I don't have a journal per say (besides my blog) for him but one of my deployment goals is to take a picture a day to share with him so he can see what the kids and I are up to.
A journal may be a good idea though because I tend to remember the bad moments of the day better than the good and if I write down the good maybe I'll have more to tell him!
Would any of y'all be interested in setting up some type of chat? It has helped me in the past. Just wondering...
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